Just when we think and feel like things are back to "normal" in our household......we have a set-back......our genuine attempts to parent and nurture our new addition blows up.....and he retreats to a sad and angry place. Our initial parental reactions inside are of anger, frustration, and impatience....we fail to see the bigger picture...fail to see the behavior really isn't about eating your breakfast....fail to recognize in that moment that our son has experienced, and continues to experience, tremendous loss and grief. Fail to realize this is the new "normal" and that we have an uphill battle to help this precious boy heal, trust, and LOVE.
In those moments it is so amazing to see the Lord work in our lives. Lacey immediately was drawn to the book,
Orphanology, and found this great passage and verse that helped us offer needed GRACE to the situation and move forward in this crazy new "normal."
"One of the best pieces of advice I received was the warning not to expect your child or children to be grateful. It is in our nature to have this sort of savior complex where you want to say, "Can't you see we've rescued you from neglect, loneliness, and orphan status? Love me. Attach to me immediately. Appreciate me." When in reality, there is only one Rescuer, one Savior, and we want to do the same thing to Him - rebel."
"Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer" (Romans 12:12).